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[-] NickwithaC@lemmy.world 314 points 1 week ago
[-] shneancy@lemmy.world 70 points 1 week ago

beautiful thank you

[-] KryptoSynth@ani.social 40 points 1 week ago

this hits the funny

[-] celeste@lemmy.blahaj.zone 25 points 1 week ago
[-] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 23 points 1 week ago

Looks like there's a Celeste Among Us…

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[-] Oxen@lemmy.dbzer0.com 24 points 1 week ago
[-] dejected_warp_core@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Easily the best one. But does that mean:

a. Self-actualization and understanding one's self is difficult for men due to toxic masculinity and social norms.

b. Into guys but with dubious grammar skills.

c. ... both?

[-] samus12345@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago

The guy in the top left's name is i and he's hard for guys.

[-] AwakenedAce@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Indeed why dating?

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[-] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world 102 points 1 week ago

Simple: Guys should just date each other! The girls can then watch with their gfs 👨‍❤️‍💋‍👨👀👭

[-] Frozzie@lemmy.world 46 points 1 week ago

I will become the girl instead

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[-] jabathekek@sopuli.xyz 64 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)
[-] Zwiebel@feddit.org 57 points 1 week ago

The point is to take care of your hygiene, if showering less is enough for you that's great

[-] vzq@lemmy.world 42 points 1 week ago

“Not strictly necessary”, please stop you’ll sweep me off my feet!

[-] Brkdncr@lemmy.world 29 points 1 week ago

Not at the top of that list are ya

[-] jabathekek@sopuli.xyz 27 points 1 week ago

At least my eczema's getting better, you ass.

[-] Ookami38@sh.itjust.works 10 points 1 week ago

Ass eczema must be miserable

[-] SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 1 week ago

While you're right, it's missing the forest for the trees. It's just quippy way of saying "takes care of one's hygiene"

But yes, it's mostly a common myth that you have to shower every day, ideally do what feels right/works for you to have a good hygiene

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[-] felykiosa@sh.itjust.works 56 points 1 week ago

That s not true , of course doing the basic minimum of a normal human IS required but its not enough to have a gf today. The loneliness epidemic is real and not all lonely guy are complete moron. Personally I think one major factor is the privatization of love.

[-] sem@lemmy.blahaj.zone 47 points 1 week ago

Wow this has a lot of up votes. Of course the loneliness epidemic is real but why blame something nebulous like the privatization of love when capitalism is right there. There's a profit motive in getting people to work longer hours for less pay and have less free time to build community

[-] Passerby6497@lemmy.world 51 points 1 week ago

Don't forget the commodification of all the 3rd places so now there's no real place for people to interact without having to spend money

[-] sem@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Very thankful my community has public libraries, churches, community bike shops, makerspaces, etc because I know they're declining in some places, churches especially (too bad they're religious and they can't just switch to community organizations) also civic clubs like Rotary and lions club.

Can't take those orgs for granted they decay without involvement

[-] felykiosa@sh.itjust.works 11 points 1 week ago

Yes I just wanted to be more precise , in fact I was talking about the fact that more than halft of the meeting are donne thanks to dating app and that the algorithms of those app are made to make you dependent of those app and not for there original purpose . I think I m not clear but basically enshitifaction of dating app are a real problem and one major cause of loneliness that s what I wanted to say. Sorry for my broken english its not my first language

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[-] syreus@lemmy.world 42 points 1 week ago

Ask someone out for coffee. Talk about your week. Ask about theirs. Don't treat the interaction as a pass/fail. Repeat. If you have mutual attraction then nature will play out.

Doing the bare minimum hygiene and the appearance of happiness drastically improves your chances.

Dating is for finding someone you enjoy being around. Sex is a result of growing closer.

Obviously some people have it easier than others but I have peers that just refuse to ask people out for coffee or a lunch. I'm a late millennial if that matters.

Be a decent person and if a love interest doesn't personally find you attractive they WILL tell their friends. NEVER talk poorly about your previous relationships. Learn a few jokes.

The privatization of love is a real problem but the classic approach isn't dead.

[-] SomethingBurger@jlai.lu 23 points 1 week ago

Ask someone out for coffee

Who?

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[-] TonyOstrich@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago

My issue is with your first sentence (cis white man that is about as just barely straight). With all of the talk about equality, equity, and BS gender roles, I'm still expected to make all of the initial moves and decisions in real life and on apps. However, I'm mildly on the spectrum and my natural tenancy is to be very aggressive in my methods (not in a violent way and not just with people, just mean I am very earnest, locked in, and tenacious with most things I do).

I have never been approached, hit on, or asked out by a women in real life, though I have by men a couple of times. When I'm in public or at a bar I am literally invisible, unless I happen to walk into a women's zone of awareness (not personal space, but the point/distance where they then have to make a judgment as to whether I am a threat or not).

The advantage of online dating is that if I match with someone it's reasonable to assume they are interested in me which puts me past the initial barrier in real life of not being able to tell. At that point I'm pretty OK at interacting with a person and flirting etc. However, my hobbies and the things I would like a partner to enjoy doing with me are very male dominated.

The result of this is that I haven't ever had a partner or dated someone who didn't have crippling anxiety and/or deep self-image issues where they use their partner for all of the validation and structure they haven't figured out how to do from within themselves. Which at least to me makes sense, since women with the same interests as mine are surrounded by men all the time everyday, and so the confident well adjusted women have the metaphorical pick of the litter and probably end up with one of the few not problematic men in that space that are also well adjusted.

I am well aware it's far more complicated than that, and that women face a number of other struggles, but Game Theory does still very much apply, and so as I was saying before despite all of the rhetoric about equity, I still have to play by the old rules while somehow also playing by the new ones at the same time.

It's exhausting.

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[-] Tyr_Raidho_Othala@reddthat.com 11 points 1 week ago

appearance of happiness

I see now. That is holding me back by a lot.

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[-] anothercatgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 54 points 1 week ago

Lol the attractive guy turns into a femboy ;3

[-] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 26 points 1 week ago

The attractive "guy" is a transbian (trans lesbian) :3

[-] superkret@feddit.org 12 points 1 week ago

I wanna take a ride on that transbian railway.

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[-] AI_toothbrush@lemmy.zip 36 points 1 week ago
[-] ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 27 points 1 week ago

Allegedly he's some Mexican bootleg version of Tate.

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[-] norevisit@lemmy.world 35 points 1 week ago

I'd like to think I am the guy the arrows are pointing to but I am still chronically single 🥲🥲🥲 its okay, life is good but still I do get lonely sometimes

[-] SomethingBurger@jlai.lu 18 points 1 week ago
  1. Be attractive
  2. Don't be unattractive
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[-] BluesF@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago

I'm sorry it was me. Now I transitioned so I'm the one in the bottom picture too 😎

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[-] starelfsc2@sh.itjust.works 20 points 1 week ago

I'd like to note: neurodivergent people generally only become close with other neurodivergent people (NOT ALWAYS). neurodivergent people are a much smaller portion of society, and a lot of these people will be bullied or put down growing up and lose their self worth. EVEN IF they manage to regain their self worth completely, they generally have trouble communicating with people, and will generally have mild to negative social interactions. Now the people who have the most trouble interacting have to interact with 5x as many people since they likely would only become close with other neurodivergent people. I hope that's obvious how insanely unfair that is.

Stuff like this is pretty hurtful to those people, because if this is all it takes for most people, hey I must really be worthless then because I've already done all this and I tried a hobby and I tried asking people out and none of it works! To those people, sorry you have to deal with this, you deserve someone who will be happy to be with you. I promise there are people out there that will value you specifically for who you are, even if they're more rare. You can try joining things that you think will have people you'd enjoy hanging out with, whether that be playing games at a comic book shop or joining a dnd group, a choir, a band, or any niche interest you have (for me this is learning languages, and I met two of the coolest people I've ever met through that)

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[-] TheReturnOfPEB@reddthat.com 18 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Misandry is not going to help anyone but misogynists

[-] hydroptic@sopuli.xyz 20 points 1 week ago

And what exactly was "misandrist" in this meme?

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[-] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 1 week ago

Don't make it so obvious....

It's hard enough to find someone already. Like - ok fine I get it, yes, being a lesbian (or bi) feels like the only way anyway, cuz like yeah, how can you not like girls. I find that somewhat hard to imagine.

but that turns into a bad thing, because all of a sudden you have all these super pretty girls in the dating space and they are all prettier, smarter and more comfy cozy than you!!! I feel this is especially the case when transfem (but what do i know)

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[-] QueenHawlSera@lemmy.world 15 points 1 week ago

You will never find a man to sweep you off your feet, because sweeping is a woman's job. Mrrowl

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[-] technocrit@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Gotta put maga chuds on there too. There's a literal movement (4B) to not f--- those people.

[-] mlg@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago

The top image gave me flashbacks to reddit, r/chodi, and the wave of Indians spamming r/Pakistan complaining about "love jihad"

spoilerLove jihad (or Romeo jihad)[5] is an Islamophobic[11] conspiracy theory[22] promoted by right-wing Hindutva activists.[25] The conspiracy theory purports that Muslim men target Hindu women for conversion to Islam by means such as seduction,[28] feigning love,[30] deception,[31] kidnapping,[34] and marriage,[37] as part of a broader demographic "war" by Muslims against India,[39] and an organised international conspiracy,[42] for domination through demographic growth and replacement.

It was funny because there actually were several studies and polls that suggested women in India preferred Muslim men because they were well groomed and more respectable than their Hindu counterparts.

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