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[-] Kecessa@sh.itjust.works 43 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

"fitness"

Highly exaggerated by the masculinist movement, I know many people who aren't in good shape and never were that have a relationship/family life that most would envy

[-] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 22 points 11 months ago

It doesn't hurt to be fit. You'll likely look better and it helps with your confidence.

[-] Kecessa@sh.itjust.works -1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

When did I say it hurts to be fit?

The vast majority of the population doesn't go to the gym and their exercise consists of doing random physical activities around the house, going on walks or having a physically demanding job but a bunch of people with low self esteem got convinced by the internet that they're hopeless if they don't go to the gym... Oh and here, buy their product and treat women like shit while you're at it because it all goes together! That's what self esteem feels like bitches!

[-] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 16 points 11 months ago

"It doesn't hurt to" is an idiom meaning it can be beneficial. It doesn't mean you were arguing that it hurts to be fit. I'm saying it's not necessary to be fit but it might still be worthwhile.

[-] c0mbatbag3l@lemmy.world 5 points 11 months ago

Seems like you're looking at these people as a monolith. Most of us treat the gym like a horticulturist treats their garden, it's therapeutic while also being beneficial. Sure there's the guys that follow all of the social media "gurus" but you can usually tell who they are by their gear and what they spend most of their time talking about.

9/10 times the guys with the most experience and general level of fitness are the ones that just wear old cut offs and go home to go drink a protein shake. The ones railing pre workout and listening to Andrew Tate aren't there for the right reasons so they generally never get anywhere with it.

[-] SomethingBurger@jlai.lu -2 points 11 months ago

You'll likely look better

True.

it helps with your confidence.

False.

[-] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 7 points 11 months ago

I think it definitely anecdotally helps with confidence, but went searching and seems like at least some studies corroborate this common view, at least for self-esteem

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5068479/

[-] Katana314@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

I definitely agree the attempt at directly correlating gym plans to dating is often mis-played. But, there's solid advice out there about using basic fitness and exercise to combat depression and mood problems. Even if lifting iron won't do a whole lot for you, occasionally going out for a walk or riding on a bike/kayak/etc will often improve your attitude. And yeah, in the end being less depressed is probably good for dating - just not good to form the direct expectation.

[-] snek@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

I've seen lots of people get obsessed over their "fit" looks, and sometimes them going to the gym is both caused and made worse by more obsession with fitness.

Personally, it helped my confidence a lot and made me happier in my body to hit the gym. Seeing progress in something where you have to have grit and dedication usually does help people boost their confidence though, like learning an instrument or a new language, especially in children. Nothing as rewarding as meeting one's own goals, if you ask me.

[-] LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world -1 points 11 months ago

People who aren't in good shape attract other people who aren't in good shape. There is someone for everyone. Well not really, but those people are content with each other.

[-] accideath@lemmy.world 21 points 11 months ago

I wouldn’t phrase it like that. More like, your standards for your partner shouldn’t be higher than your standards for yourself.

[-] LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 4 points 11 months ago

Tomato, tom-ah-to

[-] NOSin@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

You keep telling yourself that while we stay more open Skipper

[-] Kecessa@sh.itjust.works -1 points 11 months ago

Not really true and you realize that you can just not do exercise without being 400lbs right? Even in the periods where I wasn't into exercising my weight was stable around ~145lbs at 5'8", I just looked like a regular guy and dated plenty of beautiful women during that time.

[-] Strawberry@lemmy.blahaj.zone -5 points 11 months ago

People who aren't in good shape attract other people who aren't in good shape

Have you ever met a lesbian

[-] LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 7 points 11 months ago

Huh? What does that have to do with anything we're discussing here?

[-] fkn@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

Clearly the answer is no.

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