I've officially reached a stage of middle age where my spouse and I stopped sharing a bed. I do sleep with my dog though, who is very snuggly.
Idk man, I'm 35 and I just go to bed
I'm 36 and I wear a CPAP because my body tries to stop breathing otherwise.
I’m 39 and I need standard bed setup, or a couch with the tv blaring.
I am 43 and all I need is a couple of glasses of whiskey...
At this point I'm considering a colostomy bag so I don't have to go to the bathroom 5 times during the night
Check with your doctor, you might have sleep apnea. It is well documented that sleep apnea can be the root cause of nocturnia.
you will have to deal with the potential smell and dumping the poop. you dont want that thing fermenting and festering in your bag.
I feel like my body wants to stay up for 30 hours followed by 14 hours of sleep.
I need a different planet.
Ooh boy just you wait til you realize you're just napping in between having to wake up to piss 3 times in the night.
I stopped drinking fluids three hours before sleep and that's helped. Just have to hydrate well early in the day.
Doesn't work if i drink any alcoholic or sugary beverages.
Just sleep on that futon again for a month. You will sleep like a baby when you sleep in bed again.
40+ here and the only reason why I don't sometimes sleep well is because I chose to play games until 2am.
I sleep well as long as my wife is there. She can roll us from one side of the bed to the other or off it even and I'll continue sleeping like a rock. The moment she's sick or has trouble sleeping is when I also have trouble sleeping, which is fine with me.
I do sometimes miss being younger and sleeping any where, any time though.
That's actually really sweet. Take good care of each other.
At some point in my 40s I started doing that medieval "first sleep" and "second sleep" thing where my eyes just blast wide awake at 2am. I don't have to pee, I'm not uncomfortable, I just wake up. I read, take the dog out, brush my teeth again... After awhile I go back to sleep and wake up at the normal time.
I guess it is kind of nice to do a patrol around and make sure everything is cool, and the dog loves it. It's just kind of weird.
Long ago, when humans lived by daylight, we likely lived this way, with a "hole" in the middle of sleep, where people would wake up, putter around, chat and tell stories, have something to eat, and then go back to sleep. There was a lot less going on back then, people didn't have access even to books and candles were costly anyway so there was no reason to stay up late. I've had the same issue myself although these days, it's just the 2 times to pee.
Amateur! Wait till you hit 65. I'm slowly becoming Darth Vader. Machines to make me breathe, eyes that can't see, ears that can't hear and teeth that shatter on the softest food. Luckily they haven't started replacing any of the inside bits.... yet.
PS: this is just the short list of stuff.
I describe adulthood as an ever-increasing amount of rituals to maintain normal.
After 40? Lmfao. People, just take the time to care for yourself. Eat balanced meals, don’t over eat, stop watching TV all the time and go for a walk.
Take it from someone nearing 50 who took gluttony to the max by 35. I feel better today, than I ever did in my younger adult years because I stopped being a typical american.
I'm sixty, and I agree. The best time to start taking better care of yourself is when you hit 18. The second-best time is right now.
For the past 16 years, I've steadily improved my diet and exercise habits. I feel pretty good, compared to what I hear others complain about. I sleep about seven solid hours per night, typically waking up once around 3AM. I'd like to get more, but I've accepted that ~seven is all I need, because I can't sleep longer.
I think when you hit 45, you need to make a choice. You can choose to put in the effort or not. No one can do it for you, and no one else really cares whether you do. In fact, some people will actively discourage you, sadly enough.
Yeah well,
I exercise, eat healthy and am not American.
My sleep is still fuck.
Take your high horse and ride it into the sunset.
The reason this post connects with people is that it validates a very well understood connection between aging and difficulty sleeping
Turning around and invalidating people in response and telling people its their own fault is frankly silly. Just because you resolved your sleep/health issues by taking better care of yourself doesn't mean everyone else struggling with sleep is just an unhealthy bum who should do better
Aging tends to bring with it sleep problems that aren't caused by lifestyle factors associated with poorer health, and even in cases where someones health issues are because theyre not taking good enough care of themselves, telling those people its their own fault generally overlooks socioeconomic factors- it usually amounts to blaming people for being poor, or mentally unwell
Source: I have a severe sleep disorder and at 27, I've seen a multitude of sleep doctors (and am still searching for a Dr who is knowlegable enough about my condition to try and help me beyond what I'm already doing) and spent a fair chunk of my life at this point sitting across from one discussing sleep issues
I am at the stage where I either sleep 4 hours or sleep 12 hours
Yea my sleep schedule is destroyed
And the best part is you don't know which one you'll get when you go to bed.
Barely standing awake at 10 fighting to keep your eyes open when you finally go to bed? Wide awake at 1 in the morning.
Browsing the internet at midnight because you are clearly not tired? You open your eyes and it's mid afternoon.
Is "a fan" here a person who stands next to your sleeping body in the dark and watches you? In that case I don't want one.
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I can feel myself dying
35 and just moved to the futon, actually 2 futons, because I couldn't get used to just the 1. I'm hoping I can get used to it, and move back to 1.
In my 20s and made a sleep pb recently. 16hrs continuous
Best thing for sleep was a CPAP (in my case anyways). I can make a cocoon with blankets and even cover my head since I can breathe via the machine. Best I've ever slept.
That's what the fan is for. I leave a strategic gap between bed and blanket to allow for airflow. Works especially well when turned against wall, then I breathe through the gap between bed and the wall.
I can't sleep with my head uncovered.
I've been hit by 7 cars. What is your excuse?
All at the same time?
Commuting by bike exclusively, and training for racing from 2009-2014. I only ever got hit by 2 SUVs at one time, but that is the one that broke my neck and back in 2014. Most of the rest were from people turning in and out of driveways or parallel parking spots. In the six crashes, three I rode away from with only road rash from going down. Three of the seven were totalled SUVs. I was faster than most e-bikes before lithium battery e-bikes were really a mass market thing. Back then, I averaged around 400 miles per week on the bike. I was one of the most hardcore roadies out there.
That much melatonin will give you weird sweat nightmares. I just mention this because a lot of people think more mg = more sleep but at 10+ mg melatonin does real weird shit to your REM cycle. Most evidence shows that the optimal dose is often less than 1 mg. Just in case you're curious.
at 35 I need the ear plugs, the right temperature, to feel clean, the eye mask if there's any light source at all, and to lay on my left side with a 7cm thick pillow at just the right angle so my head rests without touching the occipital area
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