Storing superglue in the fridge. Those tiny packs now actually last until I've used it all.

I started running Linux 15 years ago, and switched to Linux as my main daily driver like 10 years ago. And I couldn't be happier, but I still wish I would have started my Linux journey way sooner, especially since Windows is about as useful as used toilet paper these days...

Hear me out:

Bamboo pajamas

I WFH so negl I am in jammies most of the time (yeah I throw on a corporate tshirt for the annoying "cams-on" zooms but still wearing jammie bottoms)

Wife got bamboo onesies for the baby. So soft. Then she found they also make adult jammies of the same material. Omfg. Where was this all my life till now?

You have not lived till you wear soft bamboo clothes. Worth every penny.

Living alone

Downward facing dog -> upward facing dog -> child pose

My lower stomach and digestion work so much better when I remember to do this.

Getting on HRT of course

Delete Facebook and twitter

Spent a fuck load of money on a quality bed set.

Cutting my hair short (like masc).

Folks insisted “but [my] hair is so nice”, “what if you regret it?” And “but you won’t be able to tie it back.”

I finally feel like me. I’m almost mad at myself for not doing it like ten years ago. I’m so genuinely happy over a friggin haircut. It’s wild.

Getting a dog. Also the most value for my money I've ever gotten for any purchase in my life.

Got away from my family.

Started getting all my chores done early and day drinking on Sundays. Probably not healthy long term but fuck it, the world is on fire and I'm not going to be stressed out all the time.

Things that helped;

• Blocking Lemmy and Reddit on my phone, and limiting time browsing the News
• Delete social media apps from the phone
• Switching from diet sodas to just cold water
• Reducing coffee from 4 a day to 0-1 a day
• Get diagnosed for ADHD and get on Vyvanse
• Eat high fibre, starting the day with oats/fibre
• Meditating
• Journaling, with weekly review of how I progressed towards my goals
• Cutting back on smoking weed to once every other month

What I'm still working on;

• Cut down on time browsing porn. I'll probably binge porn for an afternoon once a week or two. Still too much.
• Consistency in the gym. I've had a lot of life altering events happen recently, so I'm trying to get back on the ball.
• Just vegging out on the computer while at home. I should be doing things like writing, reading, or exercise. But instead I sit here and type out long comments while my meds kick in. :)

Adderall. Started taking it at 34 and ever since I can prioritize tasks, finish things, relax...

Knives that don't suck. Also getting chickens. I love them so much, great pets and they lay eggs :)

Methylphenidate

Physical therapy

Meditation and philosophical inquiry. Spent a lot of time believing the default vaguely-Christian-materialist-dualist framework that western culture has been brainwashing people into for centuries, pretending it's "objectively true".

Getting back into bicycling as an adult. I've always struggled to keep active as I don't care for sports and gyms are unpleasant enough that I really can only use them for the weights, and I only do when my apartment has a gym included. But yeah, I tried getting into running because I needed cardio, but I fucking hated it. So I bought a bike and it turns out I love that thing. It's fun to fix up and mess with, and I'm happy to ride it as long as my body, the weather, and my schedule let me. I've spent months where unless I had other plans every weekday was: work, eat dinner quickly, then bike until it's too dark to do so. I even managed to get my wife into it.

I just feel better when I bike regularly. Physically and mentally. Also it gave me killer legs and an ass to die for. And it got me in touch with the bicycle anarchists where I used to live, which it turns out is a huge thing across America and they're consistently in my experience some of thd best of both categories of people. They're fun, they're doing something other than activism to self destruction with an alcohol intake to match, and they're the sort of people who look at an old pile of gears and see a way for a neighbor to get to work or get in shape.

SSRIs. I already knew this was likely going to be my conclusion, but I really wish I started the treatment sooner. So many years feeling incompetent and damaged! Months of school missed, almost getting expelled, turning down invites, awkward friendship moments, scared of my own shadow... Anxiety is mentally brutal. It's not just being scared or exaggerating, it's a very real struggle that can destroy your social life -- which is needed to live a healthy and prosperous life. I spent so many days unable to get myself out of bed because anything outside of that area seemed like a threat.

I started SSRIs 8 months ago. I can't say it's been perfect, but that's not what I'm aiming for. Some periods are tougher than others, but I'm so grateful I'm at a state where I actually feel like I'm living -- not a shell of a person. I'm not self-sabotaging myself as much as I used to, and I'm gaining more and more independence and confidence in my daily life. I'm finally able to say that I'm happy and motivated.

I'm sure that therapy will help resolve some of my childhood trauma, so I'm looking forward to that, but I want to go into the sessions with a clear mind. Without the medication, I wouldn't be able to process and live by my psychologist's advice. I'm extremely grateful to have found a treatment that works!

Buy a washer machine instead of rely on laundry service

Lexapro and a bidet

Sleep schedule!

Learning Turkish. Made me a so much happier person.

You're allowed to put banana's in the fridge to keep them from going bad.

Started poisoning people I don't like.

Going vegan, kicking my religion/faith to the curb, leaving my abusive marriage, injecting estrogen.

Some pretty fun years.

Raising the head of my mattress ≥30° improved my sleep so much that I've made more life progress in the last 2 years than I have in decades.

I've had sleep problems my whole life (even as an infant). Did a home sleep test for obstructive sleep apnea, was negative so was sent to the in-person sleep lab. Got wires glued all over my head and did the full night + several naps the next day of testing. Nothing. No cycle dysregulation, no narcolepsy. Resigned myself to "guess I just suck at sleeping."

A few months later I get an awful ear infection and go to an ENT. Something I mention (I forget what) leads him to check for a deviated septum (don't have that either). BUT! He noticed acid damage in the back of my throat.

I have nighttime acid reflux that was not bad enough to notice, but just bad enough to disrupt my sleep.

Propping up my torso slightly and minor dietary changes were all it took to stop my stomach from slightly drowning me in acid every single night. FUCK I wish I had figured this out sooner.

I stopped eating meat for the most part (aka: flexiatarian).

Go for more walks and eat less meat and tell me you don’t feel better!

Morning stretching and lite weight lifting.

Being more playful. Find more things to laugh and smile about.

Tap into my inner child, getting back into the things I loved as a child because I am a kidult with free will.

Sleep with stuffed animals and taking a plushie with me when I go out, despite what people may think.

Look for glimmer moments in my day.

The world is a hot pile of shitty dumpster fire, but I won't let it take away my smile and wonder and laughter. I will be happy in spite of the world

Having money.

No but seriously, nothing even comes close.

Firefox shortcuts. A lemmy user pointed it out and it's so much faster than using ddg bangs

having more ram and faster machine overall, i've lived with a 2008 laptop woth 2gb ram 5400rpm hdd and core2duo capped to 1.2ghz thinking it's okayish since i run a highly optimized linux setup, it wasn't. upgrade to a faster machine with ssd and everything literally made my system run twice as faster than before.

Avoiding foods with ingredients I don't understand.

I feel so much better these days. Two years running.

Finishing college. Huge life improvement.