people that have more money than they could ever spend trying to accumulate more money
When I go to poor countries I tip/donate well beyond what I'm told is normal, because $10 or $20 is nothing to me, but potentially more money than they'll earn in days/weeks. It always makes them so happy.
What happiness I would make with a billion...
And that's why you'll never be a billionaire. See how that works out?
Edit: they don't get there by caring about people.
I don't think that's the reason. It is part of it, but the main reason you'll never be a billionaire is that you would need to take from people.
Some species of chimps beat other chimps that horde to the detriment of the group to death
It's an addiction for some. For others, it's like a security blanket. For others, it's a source of power.
It's not about the money; it's about the power.
There's a lot of human behavior I don't understand. Used to make me feel like an alien as a kid.
Like the super unhealthy parasocial relationships people think they have with famous people, and more appalling is the way the media feeds right into it. People acting like it's normal to obsess over details about celebrities personal lives is very weird to me.
I don't understand cheating... just break up and then you can fuck who you want. Why does deceiving someone and breaking their trust have to be a part of it? Why is that necessary?
I don't understand how you can be the richest elongated muskrat in the world, so rich you just doubled your wealth, and not do anything to help people who need it. I don't know how he can live with himself. And what I really don't get is that he clearly wants the world to see him as some sort of important amazing brilliant person. So why not do the thing. DO THE THING AND HELP YOU SELFISH FUCK
Don't even get me started with bigotry. It just does not make sense. Why does someone's skin pigment effect people so drastically? Why does the gender or sexual orientation of strangers matter? People need to focus on themselves and mind their business. If someone would like to make minding your business the new fad of 2025 I'm here for it.
Top shelf response. I'd happily have a drink at a bar or Cafe with you, and chew the fat.
Celebrity gossip. I'm just not interested in who married who, who's wearing what, who's doing who.
And reality TV, but if ratings are any indication, I'm the weird one on that.
Littering is one of those things I struggle the most to understand.
I can somewhat grasp it in extreme cases, like when you’re dealing with something really dirty and there’s nowhere to put it. But I’m talking about casual littering - things like throwing candy wrappers on the ground when you could just as easily put them in your pocket.
I don’t think anyone sees themselves as a bad person. Even when we engage in bad behavior, we usually have some story we tell ourselves to justify it. But I can’t put myself in the mindset of someone who casually throws trash on the ground for someone else to clean up. It’s kind of like walking around and cussing at random people - it just doesn’t make any sense. You have to know that you're the problem.
Cigarettes are one that particularly bother me, because they're so gross even compared to most other litter, but throwing them wherever is so normalised among smokers.
I've never understood why everyone has their phone out recording at large public events. Surely someone is going to post a video of the event and you don't need to be recording it
The worst is when it's a highly televised event (e.g. fireworks), so it's already being recorded in 4k by pros, drones, etc.
Nobody will ever watch your crappy phone recording, including you.
People want to share their own perspective. And everyone thinks that maybe their video will end up being the one everyone else watches.
I prefer to live special moments with my own eyes instead of staring at a phone screen the entire time.
The need some people have to be part of a group.
I've been "alone" for such a long time that it probably affects how I see things like this, but I just don't get the need some people have. I'm thinking from things like worshipping a politician just to be part of a group to more simple things like needing to insert yourself into a group at work just to be "one of the guys." I've always just done my own thing and never considered myself part of anything, whether friend groups, work "cliques," or whatever. If it was "Tim, Tom, and Tina" I could be friends with all of them, but I never felt like I needed to be, or even ever was part of "their" group. I just come and go as the situation arises.
Some things like politics I obviously fall into one category or another based on my beliefs, but I don't conform or alter my beliefs just to maintain a position within that group.
Feeling some kind of national pride. You didn’t choose to be born where you were born. Borders change and move, etc. The place my grandparents were born in has changed countries at least 3 times since then.
We should take pride in our country in terms of making it a better place, and by that I mean making it better for everyone. Not turning it into a right wing hellscape which is what is happening to most countries.
Going to concerts. It's too loud and it's crowded, I just don't see the appeal.
And while we're at it, dancing. It's unnatural, I tell you!
Hmmm I think I will go with "fandom", or being a fan of something. Like, I enjoy concepts. But there's no universe or product or franchise or sports team or whatever in particular I would consider myself a fan of.
edit hope this counts as behavior lol
I never got plastering logos for whatever brands you love to consume on everything you own. Like buying decals and stickers and shit to put all over your car, laptop, whatever else. Since when do we pay to advertise for brands..?
The refusal to try something just because it's popular.
I do this sometimes but typically more because I want to see if people still think it's good post-hype.
Shitting on weaker people. I mean I kinda do get it, because I had the instinct when I was little. But I very quickly got taught respect by people who refused to be bullied by me.
I guess what I don’t get is … how can people still be doing that as an adult? Have they literally never had someone stand up to them before? Or are they addicted to it, unable to control themselves?
I had the impulse toward evil, but it got beaten out of me really young. It really didn’t take much — just one kid being like “no I’m not doing that”.
I can’t understand how getting in an argument with a family member cannot be solved by explaining my side then listening to their side so everyone’s on the same page. I think this is why it’s sometimes said women want someone to listen whereas men want to solve the issue. I cannot understand not trying to solve the issue. If I think I was right or logical then I want to explain it but I also want to hear the other party and arrive at a middle ground then hug. That never works and I cannot get it.
It seems to me that you're very focused on the end result of 'issue is solved' potentially without understanding and/or acknowledgement of the other person's efforts to solve the issue on their own.
Of course they should take the time to reciprocate when you're the one seeking resolution.
Listening to someone and allowing them time to vent to their own conclusion is to take part of their emotional journey. They may want your solutions eventually, but they want to have the human connection of going through that journey together so that way you have all the context for their feelings/stress.
People don't come to others for help and want to defend their previous actions. They just want to say that they're frustrated, this is what they did, this is what happened, and maybe that's all they want. Listening = validation of the human experience. Maybe after venting, they'll want some solutions.
Personally I have a hard time telling if someone wants a venting session or a solutions session. So I just straight up ask what they need and if they'll want to check in on the solutions after venting. This saves you the emotional labor required to try to help someone that doesn't want it and keeps the chance of frustration/unfulfillment low for both parties
Family though is a mixed bag. Unless both parties are operating under the same expectations, it'll lead to what you described. Understandable that you just don't get it since the fault is not on you
In some of those situations, you can "solve" what you think is the problem, but it's impossible for her to explain the aspects that make your "solution" inadequate. Your life experience is just so different, you think you understand but you don't. And that just upsets her more. Women aren't against solutions, they're just done with men not actually understanding, even when they think they're listening.
Breeding
Just today I was thinking about how we've folded basic animal instincts (breeding) into elaborate social constructs. Humans are so weird...
Handshaking. We’ve both touched our crotch recently, let’s not
I support this. Let's just fuck instead.
I was hoping that would go away when covid stuck around. People still want to shake hands!
shakes head
I hope you've washed your hand since the last time you've touched down there.
But what if I want to touch your crotch?
Rally 'round the flag effect
Like, why???
Its like... your parents have been abusing you for your entire life, and a sudden home invasion is gonna make you love your parents? 🤨
Nah, it feel like some weird movie/tv script where 2 people bond over a traumatic event, too cliche. Doesn't even feel real.
It's more like, you feel scared so you stick with what you know. Fear causes people to revert to a more tribalist mentality.
Kissing. Why? What's the point of it? What's the appeal?
Do you mean making out? A quick kiss as a sign of affection makes sense to me. Locking lips and moving your tongues around? Weird. Maybe I'm doing it wrong, but if you are doing something that intimate, there are a lot more fun things to be doing.
Watching reading videos.
I also enjoy these, but what on earth is that about? We have videos of someone's face telling a story, we have videos of things happening for us to see (real and fake), why are stories read aloud while the words appear on the screen so interesting?
Also, we have access to the websites where these stories are coming from. This is the part that does make sense to me, I often miss those certain comments that make the best stories... So it's like a best of the best compilation to watch the reading videos.
But still, why? Why is a reading video the preferred way to find these cherry picked posts and comments from Reddit and Tumblr. Wouldn't a Best Of collection of screenshots or reposts do that job?
In a similar vein, reaction videos. I don't understand why anybody wants to watch somebody watch a video and do over the top "reactions".
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